About last night....

You all got lucky - I am stuck running subjects all afternoon so I can't do any real work but have ample time to blog.

So how did last night go with New Boy? I imagine most of you would be able to predict what happened, but let me just go ahead and tell you anyway.

So I had made plans with KP and others to go to $2.50 pint night, and I was determined that I was keeping those plans. If New Boy wanted to prove that he was interested and willing to put some time and effort in he could join, but I was not going to ditch my friends or make new plans to accommodate him.

So I told him to meet us there at 6:30, he showed up around 6:45-ish, which is fine. He was not as rude or aggressive as last time, but he was still very awkward and uncomfortable. I recognize that it can be a little difficult/intimidating to be around me and my friends, but I think that his coping mechanism is what makes him come off as an asshole.

Anyway, a lot of friends came and went, sometimes New Boy did a better job being involved in the conversation but he also had this rude habit of saying hello to EVERYONE that passed by (he does work there) but not doing so in a way that would invite everyone to integrate. Also, some of his friends came, but they sat at the bar and refused to come over and sit with us. Not only was that weird, but New Boy kept getting up without saying anything (rude) to go see them.

Finally, my friend came who had only tipped him 8% the last time we were there, and although that is inexcusable, he brought it up to her like 4 times in a really dick manner. I think he was trying to be funny, but it was so incredibly rude. What was she supposed to do, pull out $5?

Since I had been drinking, and he smelled so amazing, I obviously still let him come home.

So we got home and had round 1 of fabulous sex (of course). Though this goes against my rule of bothering a guy during the post-sex glow period, I still had some yelling to do, so I gently but firmly told him all the stuff he had been doing that pissed me off.

I think it was a good conversation and he absolutely understood all of my points (i.e. do not call me at 11 pm unless you plan to see me, do not call my friend out on not leaving a good tip, etc.). We shall see if this actually causes a change in behavior.

After that we had another even better round of sex, in large part because I think he is getting more comfortable with me.

So, what's the take home? I am going to continue having sex with him, but I am basically going to make my plans and live my life, and if he wants to fit into that he can, but I am not going to treat him like a boyfriend who I make a major effort to be flexible and accommodating for. I think it will also be interesting to see if he gets more comfortable and relaxed, and maybe that will make him less of an awkward dick. Already I noticed that he was just completely thrown by the afternoon booty call session last week and clearly needs some time to get comfortable before he can have sex and not be a psycho afterwards.

Final note of the afternoon: new favorite word is thundercunt. Especially the term "cocksucking thundercunt". I hope you will all move that into your vernacular.